I've always been told that I'm a selective listener. Since I was a kid, my mother has been telling me I just hear what I want to hear, like "Sure, you can go to your friend's house" and *insert muffled sounds of her saying* "but not until you clean your room." I experienced numerous situations like this as I was growing up where I would hear what I wanted to hear and completely blanked on chores or other things expected of me. Luckily, this is is no longer a task-related problem.
As an adult, I recognized that I tend to see what I want to see. This isn't the case in obvious circumstances, like when I look outside I don't see sun when its raining. I'm not delusional. But in more subjective situations when I'm supposed to pick up on cues, I find myself taking into consideration what I want to see happen, rather than looking at what's really happening in front of me. A past case for myself, and possibly other females (I will make no assumptions here), is the decision of what actions to take seriously from the object of my affection. What is more important to take into consideration: The fact that he tells you that being with you "feels right" or should you take more notice of the fact he notices and expresses a lot of appreciation for all other females? Selective vision is dangerous and should be used with caution, and medication if at all possible.
I find the way we edit what we acknowledge to be the most frightening. Do we actually pick and choose our experiences unconsciously based on our wants? Won't the choices we make to get our desired outcomes potentially make a bigger messes and cause more errors?
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